If you want! This realization makes me like Tuesdays more.) I honestly dont know how young people are functioning as well as they are, given that.
5 Better Responses to "How Are You?" Than "Busy" - The Muse Yeah, I ask this of people because Im making conversation! I actually liked her kid, and if shed just said she needed a sitter instead of tricking me into it, I wouldnt have minded babysitting.I ended up filling that child with sugar and caffeinated soda (he had a grand time), and forever answering Im so busy, ugh to all future questions about my plans. ***I realize some people do not have strong preferences about things I have read the CA letters about this very subject and sometime it is okay to say you dont have a preference, but it never hurts to actually engage in the decision making process instead of just dumping it all on another person. But then theres her Im going to need you to be my helper for Christmas Day because Im getting older, and that doesnt seem so presumptuousits MY Christmas Day and MY extended family too. Oh god then you might need to find less-jerky friends, probably. They say hey, and you reply with the same. The first time I heard this, I wondered who opened my brain while I was sleeping and pulled the song out and put it in a movie soundtrack.
What are some funny or witty responses for when someone ask you - Quora Oh yes, this! That being said, in a couple of guys Ive dated in the last few years, Ive been amazed at how fast and how almost without me noticing they can go from planning and executing dates very well to somehow only being able to function if Im doing it. I have strong memories of my MIL telling my husband, shortly after wed married, I need you to clean out the gutters. Or maybe you need to come this weekend and clean out the gutters. I really minded that! !" 6) "Come back here weekend!! Enjoying life and nothing else. She can of course say, Im taking some mental-health time, and live with whatever fallout from being an unhelpful family member. What are you up to on Saturday? has often been my go-to when dealing with someone (like my sister) that I *know* will feel pressured to accept whatever Im suggesting whether or not she wants to or has the time/energy for it. 2. And I understand many of your points. What to Say: "Thank you, I had a great weekend.". For all that the Your X is Valid thing is trending nowadays, you still need to be able to have basic conversations with people, which includes stuff like this. (Like the How are you? inquiries) Auto-reply email sample: Hi [first_name], Thanks so much for reaching out! But then she would ask me to babysit her toddler. I have been thinking about this one for some time now, and Im stuck: What is a good response to What are you up to tonight / this weekend / next Thursday?. If I have no specific plans, she thinks my time is hers (but you said you were doing nothing! and she likes to be like cousin in example 3, re her children doing lots of stuff for her because thats what good kids are supposed to do (and if were not performing like good kids, then shes a bad mother ~guilt guilt~) and she doesnt like to ask directly* so it often comes across as manipulative or passive-aggressive).
17 Funniest Running Memes - Which One's Do You Relate To? - RunToTheFinish I hear you. Call me. Does *your* phone not work? 1. Now shes supposed to go on a date with me if I ask for one!. I cant quite tell from your letter if thats the real issue, and I dont think there is any answer to the weekend question that will prevent you from sometimes having to say no to things when the other person wants you to say yes.
30 Best Responses when Someone Asks "What Are You Doing" Im sure its benignly intended but its intrusive. I get a bit awkward when people ask me that question too, because of the whole half-agreeing to plans before theyre actually exposed (I never considered it nosy personally but I can see how it might come across that way). Guys, sorry, I wont be able to make it., The kitty I am catsitting has fallen asleep in my lap. Or you pretend to suddenly get involved in learning new cooking recipes, or working on your car, or doing competitive chess, or something that isnt a once-a-month kind of hobby. I think its more like, LW has a bunch of overbearing, annoying relatives who use this as a manipulation tactic, so she now sees it as one. 1. Its a lot easier (for me anyway) to answer when I know what Im answering. Thankfully, the discomfort is mostly on my end at this point. I love this response: not sure what Ill be in the mood for. What sounds good on Wednesday is not always what I want to do on Saturday. Unless youre at the stage of an established friendship where you have agreed to get together for dinner every other Saturday, or are discussing plans for the next visit to your long-distance sweetie during this visit, any actual social plan is only going to happen after someone risks discovering that the other person is less interested than they are. Why, whatve you got? with a tone implying that weekends are always full of important adulting chores that I really dont want to do, but adults gotta adult, you know? Im right there with you. What are you doing Saturday? might be an attempt to be extra polite about making an invitation, but it only works if the person wants to accept, and its only necessary if the person is too shy to say no. If someone asked why I was asking such a nosy question, I would apology-barf all over them, then call my wife, my mother, and my best friend and ask them what I was supposed to do instead. You're still implying you have a lot going on, but you're demonstrating that you're handling it. I dont think my friends are trying to put me on the spot at all. They may be angling to invite you somewhere. 200 Sarcastic Quotes 1. You: Yeah, we should. This is how I deal with it: Its okay that I usually spend my weekends watching movies/playing videogames/reading and those arent shameful hobbies. Oh, such discerning eyes. But why would you feel entitled to her time to help with party favors for a party youre throwing?
65+ Funny Responses to Everyday Questions! - Self Development Journey These people arent trying to gotcha! I also get your daughter refusing to comply with requests that arent made with at least normal adult civility it was not even a request, in fact, but an order. Saying no at that point feels rude, and yeah some people have reacted badly. Oh thanks capn for the hilarious answers!!! Glad that this day is not that worse. This is probably part of why I am frustrated by this conversation, because by most conventional social norms, you are actually doing nothing wrong. Alternately, I am sleeping the whole weekend. There are a couple of questions my Mother asks that trigger a Pavlovian eye-roll from me because I know they are invariably followed by a request for a favor, to the point where if someone else asks me the same question in a totally innocuous way, I still react to it. Nowadays I usually use The Captains great script: I do not know yet, I have to check my calendar. We also told our children when they were growing up that they could use us as an excuse any time they felt pressured or uncomfortable saying no for themselves. Why is that worth it? When I was a teen or an adult who looked like a teen, I was very fond of, Ill have to ask my mother. I had as little to do with my mother as possible at the time, but I noticed this response was great at making creepy guys shrivel up and slink off. Setting a timer or alarms. Its either a soft opening for an invite or a general small talk questionand in both cases, Oh, not sure yet, how about you? is going to be one thousand percent fine.
101 Funny And Witty Responses To The Question "How Are You?" ), its pure formula. Doing great, what are you doing here? Tell her that you're there for her to make her laugh, if she needs some company. They dont ask if you want to do the thing and then you are able to tell them (and if you were busy, youd probably mention that when declining). Work it like a weekend warrior! 2. This is how I deal with it: Oh, the usual, you? In conclusion the rules arent really all that different. 4. The mental stress is the same whether you interrupt a current rest period or interrupt the chance to get there before it before it starts. But I dont think you can compare me to your dad. I wanted to stayyou can make why do you ask? be a friendly lineand you probably should. With friends and family you can be more honest if you like, but you dont have to. The bigger words you use, the better. As I stated above, it can even affect quality of healthcare and employment opportunities. LW, if it makes you feel any better, when many people ask this question, they arent doing it to trap you into something (though some are, of course). #2 is a good point. Also it varies on friend one friend, if I ask him if hes free Friday, we both understand that means beer and movies until the early hours, by default. But its also true I can (usually) reorganize my schedule enough to accommodate plans I want to attend. Oh man.I think this sort of thing bugs me because my dad very carefully taught me to ask/invite people for a specific activity/time precisely to avoid this scenario. Ive had good luck with, Fantastic! because no matter what is happening to me, I am still fantastic in various ways. person: Hey, hiya, rya? Them We need to have lunch soon The. In fact, you probably have all of these thoughts when a guy asks, "What are you doing this weekend?". Many of your comments in this thread have, in fact. Cant. Im actually really surprised at how many people have expressed that they find this question neutral small talk and/or dont understand why it can feel so loaded. Canned responses are pre-written messages that allow customer support agents to respond to customer issues at the drop of a hat. Fine, thanks.. IMO the correct answer to we should get lunch some time or lets hang out is actually sure, Saturdays are generally good for me or Ive been meaning to see Black Panther. I have learned over my decade plus of retail experience that the key to small talk that doesnt annoy people is to feel out what they seem excited to talk about. I think LW is unable to separate people doing something that they personally find annoying, and people intentionally trying to annoy them. Any event. Good, the colors on the leaves are amazing (in Fall) At least Im bright enough to stay out of the control panel and remember my passwords. Yes, this. After answering you always ask the other person in return how they are, and they respond in kind.
What are you doing - Best ways to answer this question We were asking about things they like or dont like about America compared to the countries they grew up in. But most native speakers will still answer with the single word "Good.". Because as far as I can tell, youre saying you want to be treated with the closeness of family, only you seem pretty adamant you dont actually want to be family with her in the sense of two adults choosing to be together and support each other as family youre very clear that you want a relationship where you retain levels of dominance and control only suitable with a minor child. An alternative then is to actually mention the fact that you are sending them an email. The bad news is that this question probably isnt going anywhere in our lifetime. Im glad youre no longer friends with that jerk. Now, when someone asks, I reply, Im not sure what Ill be in the mood for. If someone responds with an offer of plans, I can then say, Nice! Its not over-sensitivity when people react to it theyre reacting to what they know is likely to be underneath it. They have the right to call on us and expect us to come through. Were no longer friends because she never wanted to make time to hang out with me; she just wanted free babysitting. Youre my first choice, but you are not my last hope., (3) So, I know this is a little awkward, but recently Ive realized I like you in a um well, in a romantic way, and I would love it if we could maybe go out on a date sometime and see how that goes? If its something Im keen on, the answer is, Woot! Whaaaaaat. person: cool yep Him: Doing anything else? I also answer yeah, that would be great and then never hear from them again. Its a little involved because Mittens needs daily collagen injections and also shes doing primal scream therapy. Give small truths. And if I do want to see her, then I just tell her something freed up in my schedule and ask if shes available or if theres anything she wants to do. 1. (Remember the FIRST part of what I saidthat Ive been careful to respect her autonomy since she was a teen. Youll all be healthier and live longer if they learn some manners in how they treat you. LW specifically said that LW is not bothered by this in peer-friends. I hope this email finds you well. Then if someone tries to rope me into something I dont want to do, I can pull out the old Sorry, I have a deadline coming up soon / Im behind schedule so I have to work.. Funnily enough, my co-workers are also doing laundry. Me: No can do. "That is very thoughtful of you, it was a nice weekend.". Most of those projects and research were for fanfiction. A short, simple reply can be all it takes for you to let them know you appreciate their comment. But thats always what those on the winning side of dominance relationships say. My Kid: No (shuts door) Nothing much. (To the point where one of my coworkers will sometimes ask What are you doing this weekend? And then if Im busy (in truth or not), I can say, Oh sorry. I would think that any event for which one needs to book a venue and/or hire a caterer would also be the sort of event to which one sends some sort of formal invitation, which is not really the case for the situations the LW describes. Him: Nothing at all? Ive got[an alligator to befriend, etc]. And when I say angling, it might not be in a cornering way. friend: yooooooooo goodyou I get that. What are you doing this weekend? I understand the concept, but it seems to me that getting an invitation after revealing that you were nominally free at that time would make refusal even harder, not easier. Theres also nothing wrong with the sitting alone in the dark rocking back and forth, it just seemed a good description of the void my mother thinks no plans equals.
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